हम भी अपने पुलिसवालों की इज़्ज़त करना चाहते हैं ...

 

मेरे फेसबुक प्रोफाइल पर दूसरे देशों से काफी प्रशंसक हैं , वे भी मेरा blog पढ़ते हैं इसलिए अक्सर अंग्रेज़ी में लिखना पड़ता है ,पर आज नहीं चाहता वे पढ़ें , इसलिए हिंदी में लिख रहा हूँ।  

पुलिस की वर्दी में सजा एक अफसर आदर का पात्र और शक्ति का प्रतीक होता है । मैंने जब जब पुलिस इंस्पेक्टर का  किरदार निभाया है ,मुझे उस वर्दी मात्र से एक रक्षक की ताक़त और गौरव का एहसास हुआ है, इसके बावजूद इस देश का कोई बच्चा भी 100 रूपये का नोट निकाल कर एक मिनट में उसकी ईमानदारी और रौब पर थूक कर चल देने का विश्वास और साहस रखता है , उसे इतना भरोसा होता है कि पुलिसवाला है तो उसकी ईमानदारी की , इस परिभाषा और छवि से अलग तो कोई और परिभाषा हो ही नहीं सकती और यकीन मानिये , ऐसा खाब में भी नहीं होता कि कोई पुलिस अफसर यूँ सड़क के बीच 100 -50 रूपये में बिकने से परहेज़ कर जाये,कुछ तुरंत माँग लेते हैं ,कुछ मौका देख कर ,फिर भी कोई  ना लेने को अड़ ही जाए तो समझ लीजिये, उसे ज़्यादा चाहिए ,इसके आलावा पुलिस का कोई और गुप्त  ज्ञान हो , ये किसी ने ना कभी देखा ना सुना ना अनुभव किया ।  ये छवि स्वयं हमारी पुलिस ने कमाई है।  उनके बच्चे मजबूर लोगो से छीने खसोटे पैसों से बड़े होते हैं ,इस सिस्टम को राष्ट्रीय स्वीकृति मिल चुकी है , ये उनके कार्य का हिस्सा माना जा चुका है ,इसलिए यदि वो आप पर चिल्ला रहा है या गिरफ्तारी या थाने ले जाने का ख़ौफ़ दिखा रहा है तो ये understood होता है कि वह आपसे पैसे मांग रहा है , अगर आपने इंकार किया तो वो क्षण भर में आपको सारे क़ानून , अपने अधिकारों और फ़र्ज़ पर निबंध सुना देगा ,वो फ़र्ज़ जो उसने पुलिस की यूनिफार्म पहनने के दुसरे दिन ही गटर में फेंक दिये ,और अगर शुरू शुरू में किसी को ये सब करने में हिचक भी होती है तो उसे बहाव के विपरीत तैरने में कोई सार नहीं दिखता।  

मुंबई पुलिस  और उनके sharp shooters को बहुत बहुत धन्यवाद कि उन्होंने यहाँ अंडरवर्ल्ड का खौफ बहुत कम कर दिया। 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wrRU79any6c

बस अब  आपसे बस एक निवेदन है कि  जिस तरह आपने मुंबई की आतंकी गन्दगी कम कर दी उसी तरह अब अपने महकमे को भी साफ़ कर दीजिये।  आपके कार्य के लिए अत्यंत बधाइयाँ देते हुए सिर्फ ये निवेदन है की पुलिस महकमे को भी encounter operation की सख़्त आवश्यकता है।  एक भ्रष्ट पुलिस अफसर एक आतंकवादी से भी ज़्यादा घातक होता है क्यूँकि उसकी हर गलत हरकत पर आपकी किसी भी आपत्ति को वो तुरंत एक अफसर से ड्यूटी पर अभद्रता कहके आपको सालों अदालतों और पुलिस स्टेशन के चक्कर लगाने को मजबूर कर सकता है,और सेंकडों बार हम सबने देखा है कि कैसे वे , वर्दी वाले से बदतमीज़ी करने के इलज़ाम को ,हथियार की तरह इस्तेमाल करते हैं क्यूंकि हमारे ही क़ानून ने यह बंदोबस्त किया है कि  ,शक़ की बिनाह पर  पकड़ने वाला हमेशा सही ही होगा और उसकी बात पर आपत्ति करने वाला उलंघन करने वाला मन जाएगा । कैसे जिन्हें सारा दिन सड़कों और चौराहों पर , पुलिस स्टेशनों और अदालतों में 100 -50 के नोट जेबों में डालते देखते रहते हैं ,  उनसे कोई सुरक्षित महसूस कर सकता है ? ये हमारी बदकिस्मती है कि कोई उनसे इसलिए नहीं डरता कि उसने कुछ गलत किया है बल्कि इसलिए डरता है कि वो गलत कर सकते हैं इसलिए इनसे दूर रहो , ये छवि कमाई है इन्होने ,जिन रक्षकों को अपना मानना चाहिए था , जिनकी उपस्थिति में बेहद सुरक्षित महसूस करना चाहिए था , उनसे सब  सही लोग भी कतराते हैं,असुरक्षित महसूस करते हैं ,और आम नागरिकों पर चिल्लाना , उनसे हाथापाई करने, अगर कोई थोड़ा दीन हीन सा दिख जाए तो थप्पड़ मार देने की हिम्मत उन्हें इसी विश्वास के चलते आई है कि उनके पास क़ानून का दुरुपयोग करने की कानूनी सहुलियत है  । 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JmyirylqQk4

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c5uMlNEUsOg

https://www.facebook.com/video.php?v=572077419588648

 

एक भ्रष्ट पुलिस अफसर के मुकाबले एक असामाजिक तत्त्व  से लड़ना ज़्यादा आसान है ,क्यूँकि  कम से कम  आप उसे उसी के तरीके से जवाब  देने पर अपराधी तो नहीं बन जाते। 

अब पुलिस को ये समझना होगा कि हम सब चाहते हैं कि हम अपने अफसरों की इज़्ज़त करें , उनके आस पास होने पर सुरक्षित महसूस करें , क्यूँकि उनका कार्य बेहद मुश्किल और प्रशंसनीय है ,पर अगर इसी तरह लोगों ने सड़क के बीच या सार्वजनिक रूप से अफसरों की अराजकता और आतंक का यूँ खुलेआम जवाब देना शुरू कर दिया , इसी तरह videos रिकॉर्ड कर के इंटरनेट पर डालना शुरू कर दिया और दो चार भी ऐसे वीडियो viral (बेहद चर्चित) हो गए ,जिनमें आम जनता पुलिस  को बीच सड़क पीट रही है तो पूरे हिन्दुस्तान में ये नज़ारा आम हो जाएगा और फिर जनता में खौल रहे  इतने गुस्से को आप किसी तरह नियंत्रित नहीं कर पाएंगे,ये कितना सही होगा कितना नहीं ये अब इसलिए मुद्दा नहीं रह जाएगा क्यूँकि जब भी कभी Youtube पर या Facebook पर कोई ऐसा वीडियो आ रहा है जिसमें कोई एक व्यक्ति पुलिस के आतंक के विरूद्ध खड़ा हो गया हो तो हर आदमी उसे LIKE कर रहा है , SHARE कर रहा है और  अचानक लाखों लोग ये प्रण करने लगते हैं एक अगली बार एक भी पुलिस वाले ने अभद्रता की तो वे भी उसे बताएँगे  ,लाखों लोग रोज़ समझ रहे हैं कि एक नागरिक पर अत्याचार हो रहा हो तो इन्हें सबक सीखा दो , हर बार हर व्यक्ति सिर्फ इतना सोच पाता है कि उस दिन अगर वो भी उस  भीड़ का हिस्सा होता तो उस पुलिस वाले की  हालत ख़राब कर देता जैसे और मौजूद लोगों ने की …… और ये पुलिस के लिए अच्छी खबर नहीं है। …इसलिए please कुछ कीजिये अपने महकमे को संभालिये ,उसे साफ़ कीजिये , उनकी councelling कीजिये,आप हर बच्चे के हीरो हैं ,हम बचपन से इस वर्दी से सम्मोहित होते आए हैं और आज भी आप लोगों की बेहद इज़्ज़त करना चाहते हैं। हम चाहते हैं कि जब भी हम अपने रक्षकों को देखें, तो उन्हें देखकर हमारे दिल में इज़्ज़त और चेहरे पर विश्वास का भाव आ जाए।  please उसका मौका दें।

WOW......GOD CAUGHT ON CAMERA !!!

WOW........ GOD CAUGHT ON CAMERA........!!!.....

We are god fearing because we believe he watches us....have you seen these recent hidden cam experiments of misbehaviour , thrashing or those who met with an accident keep lying on the road and hidden cameras reveal,most people don't help..?..Makers...thanks for doing this not because people might help thinking they might be on camera but because they have got a chance through this to see how ugly and barbaric and devilish and animalish  a human being looks when he stands quietly without helping someone ,how low how weak how disgusting he looks watching someone in trauma.I am not a saint I can look back and think of situations when I could have taken an initiative but things did change after mom, dad and I witnessed a phase of extreme adversity to which dad lost his life for no fault at all , people who expressed immense attachment in good phase disappeared, stopped taking calls,women who felt they can't live without seeing me around felt everything else is of more worth, safer and entertaining than being around a guy in extreme mess.... I saw more spectators than friends.

I would never wish anybody should go through a traumatic phase just to experience this side of life,nobody is privileged for a lifetime believe me, so just suggesting ,god forbid without experiencing try to imagine what a person must be going through whom you ignore when he breaks down in front of you and needs you , I don't really preach the philosophy why one should help but it is essential ,it is necessary , it is even important for you to survive....now when a friend calls to inform about someone's death somewhere I run to be one of the first people to stand by the family because I have gone through it so I know they will not pounce on you , they will not catch hold of you,I know how it is to sit next to a dead body of a dear one so telling you it is not as scary or as unmanageable as people who met me somewhere after days of storms in my life thought and said...."I was so sad but I didn't understand how to face you" what to say :) ?...you can handle them even if they are crying they manage everything on their own they don't bite you,just be there.....So thanks for these camera experiments at least they show you a glimpse of how you must be appearing to god , if you are appearing like this on camera .....don't learn it the hard way..

No you can't become a singer.....with software.

 


Today woke up early.......when I was downloading a small music software utility ,an ad popped up on that site.......instantly become a singer.....(with a pitch correction plugin) There is this myth a major misconception doing rounds that with technology you can make anybody sing,become artists,or people are using various products to compose music or for various fake creations be it photoshop or film editing and things have become easy......actually that's not true......it is such a misleading misconception,in fact all these plugins and virtual correction softwares are made for tweaking here and there not to be applied to the whole creation.....the moment someone tries to do that he is in great problem,for eg.in a song every note is sung in relation to the previous note and following note...if you change one you do feel the need to tweak the previous or the following note too......and even if you do that ,the next morning when you wake up and listen to it you realize something is wrong somewhere and you again sit with hammer and plier and that becomes unending ,nothing can make a bad take seem like a good one ever........period....and it is never even half as good as you would have got re dubbing it......till date I have not heard a single off key singer seem like a good singer after all the manipulation ....this is the reason why artists who stick to Riyaz than gimmickry overtake in the long run even in this era of softwares......  so you can become artists by using machines , not when machines use you....

 

माँ

जब से जीवन याद है, एक छत्र छाया दिखी ,
मेरे सुख की हर संभावना माँ ने लिखी ,
उसका जीवन मेरे चक्कर लगाता रहा ,
वो पहाड़े दोहराती रही और मैं खाता रहा ,
जो रातों को जाग जाग कर मुझे संभालती थी ,
अपने जिस्म से बाहर अपनी आत्मा पालती थी ,
वो मेरे कपड़े ही नहीं ज़ख्म भी सिलती है ,
उसे अपने हिस्से का खिलाके ज़्यादा खुशी मिलती है ,
गिर पडूँ तो मुझे डाँट के उसका मन पिघलता था ,
ऐसा करने से फिर नहीं गिरूँगा , उसे यूँ लगता था ,
वो प्रेरणा , वो निश्चिन्तता , वो रक्षक , वो संबल ,
वो बारिश में भीगा सर पोंछता आँचल ,
मेरी लम्बाई का मापदंड वो खुदको बनाती थी ,
फिर खुद से ऊँचा देखकर इतना इतराती थी ,
मेरी तारीफ़ हो तो वो कृतज्ञ होती थी ,
और मेरे लड़खड़ाने से थोड़ी चिंतित हो जाती थी ,
अपनी का़बिलियत और चरित्र का सार मुझे देके ,
कभी गुरु , कभी सखा , कभी घोड़ा बन जाती थी ,
आज बरसों से मुझसे दूर है ,
फिर भी मुझी में चूर है ,
उसकी सुबह मेरी याद से होती है ,
हर रात वो मुझे सोच के सोती है ,
हर बच्चा ताउम्र उसी पेट की नाली से खाता है , 
उसी से पीता है ,
क्यूँकि वो माँ के भीतर का वो हिस्सा होता है ,
जो उसके शरीर के बहार जीता है ।
                                                     - दर्शन दवे 

I am not a man with respect to a woman

 


Yesterday I wrote a small update on Facebook expressing mothers miss their sons who work in other cities or separate from parents after marriage......a reply which I got from a fake account which I deleted was .... "even women also miss their mothers".......What sick mindset is this I want to know sometimes , if I say a man misses his mother,the reply from some women is...."so do women".....when I wrote an article on.... men are being targeted in false cases ......I get an answer from a feminist ...."women have also gone through a lot"...is it justified a reply ? Every girl has to help a boy take care of his parents because she expects the same from her brother and sister in law towards her parents....everyone has a role to play in this system and tradition of marriages......... He is just saying this with respect to himself irrespective of you and not 'as compared to a woman' because he is a man and he has his own place and perspective.........specially when he is not saying "women do not feel pain or should  be tortured " this is so silly ....there is this breed of ladies who have an angle of seeing everything a man expresses in light of what women are facing .I think men have their own world and they are never bothered about their problems as compared to women......Is defeating a man the only definition of proving oneself for a women..."Women can also do what men do" it is such a shallow statement....because women can do a lot more than what man can do......I still have to find out where is this competition they are so different entities and have their own place in this world....".....of course you can do what men can do although men don't see any pride in claiming it because they know they can, from cooking to raising children without mothers to kathak dance to tailoring anything you find demeaning,they have specialized in it......women have never been so without substance all these years that everything has just come down to "as compared to men" wearing ,talking , working ,enjoying , like a man and being a tomboy is to be proud of but insulting if a boy behaves like a girl.....and supposedly everything associated with her role , responsibilities and work in a family is demeaning and insulting now.Working at home,taking care of kids and family is the job of a maid ? When my father worked at home I never heard him say this is not my job,it is the job of a plumber,electrician,gardner,driver, coolie , carpenter or ATM machine......if this sounds silly ,it sounds equally stupid when a woman says she is not a maid..... and specially when the argument is -" taking care of your house is not important because you are not taking care of the house my parents stay in all the time ....." .....if there is a term mcp for men.....there has to be a term 1000 times more intense for this behaviour of women...I have written it several times ...what have our fathers done all their lives.....but till date a list of traumas and problems a man faces does not exist in this world....and I'm proud it doesn't which doesn't mean he has never faced anything in the process of protecting and sustaining his family ..... I till date have never heard a man saying if a woman is going through something.. ..."we have also gone through a lot"....so if a man is facing a problem ,it would be justified only if he sees the women concerned in the same problem ?? no he can't be a man......you talk about anything related to marriage,or a job or a law you just get one answer......... 'even women go through a lot'..... I am I .....a man and I am not a man in comparison to a woman then why some women are always struggling to define womanhood "as compared to men"....there is no competition and there has been no competition..... a family , children and society needs both and essentially their roles always have to be different,both don't have to go in every room together ......if a woman is able to visit her mother's place once a month doesn't mean it would be justified only if the man also visits his mother once a month....why do people get married now ?!.....live in is good,but since court has given all the right to a live in partner as they have given to married.....everything has to be equal except laws,job opportunities and considerations........a boy I met at the airport said....if you live in ,see to it you dump her as soon as the time is nearing 3 months else the law would be applicable...thanks to new mindset...new solutions....thanks to new laws......thanks to new definitions of womanhood and equality because if we are equal, yardstick in society , law and jobs must be equal....when you don't leave a seat in the office for a man , you are not supposed to ....but don't over react if he doesn't leave a seat for you in the bus....when you are not made to stand in job ques due to reservations don't create a scene if he doesn't let you break a cue at the ticket window ....Women are spreading so much hatred and I don't think they are getting anything else in return. 

deadparents.com..... a new matrimonial site...Should boys kill their parents before getting married ?

 

Should boys kill their parents before getting married ?
deadparents.com a new matrimonial site should be launched....

Recently there is this British airways ad which has gone viral ....A woman talking about how she is having a caged life because 1) she has to take care of the family 24*7 and 2) because she is staying in the house with in laws where she doesn't get time to spend with her husband...... she says..... when ever I go out with my husband someone is with us .... then he looks into the back view mirror and we smile but I never get to be with him... In the name of 'SOMEBODY always with us' she just has father and mother in law... and one day husband takes her away from home and family and the video goes viral.

The entire house has to be empty for her to feel she is free and close to her husband....and in laws are such a big burden for women now that a condolence ceremony sad background is played when she is saying' SOMEBODY is always there at home and I have to take care of the entire family'....because of which, she says , she never got a chance to know her husband... the husband who ultimately got an idea to take British airways flight never got an idea to take his car and take her out.....?

In comedy nights with Kapil in one of the episodes Upasana Singh says a line "I want a husband who is rich and who's mother is dead".....I don't know how can you fall in love with a woman who is so shallow ?..... a woman who gets cold feet thinking her husband has a family to take care of ?,it is so unimpressive to see your life partner so weak and unconfident....and seeing the kind of unreceptive and cold attitude for the people you love the most,It is so silly of a woman to expect that she will insult the people you can die for and still you would be quiet.....and how loyal and protective would be a guy for you if he is not protective towards the ones who gave all their life for him.
Taking care of an institution, house and family is the biggest feeling of being together...It is marriage , how can one enter it with an expectation of the pleasure of a one night stand or a live in relationship.... it is so demeaning to keep projecting in laws as 'Somebody' and then... in the ad husband says we are going abroad and she is crying and air hostess is crying ....he says she has never gone abroad ....so even your parents have never gone abroad... but they never cried..... your mother also took care of you and the entire family for many more years than your recently arrived girl friend, she never cried.....and the house which she nurtured and protected all her life and handed over to you with all the faith and legal rights......you just enter and suddenly they become SOMEBODY..... ?
How much people have started overreacting and exaggerating the fact that women take care of the family ,you land up on the Miss India and Miss universe stage and talk about loving the entire world and people clap for the woman of substance and then adjusting in a family becomes a matter of extreme trauma and an insult and interferes with the modern definition of womanhood and their freedom...... and doing household work is nothing less than slavery and imprisonment....?You find it strictly the job of a maid to clean your own house and on Miss Universe stage you claim to wipe the nose of an orphan from Somaliya.... clean dirty beaches to protect marine life.....? I still have to understand the definition of progress... I since years of staying in Mumbai have done household work,I have swept and swabbed taking it like a workout ..... I don't know if I will ever feel it is so demeaning, my mother has all her life got extreme pleasure in taking care of dad and me and everybody in the family and yet she has the highest degree of the university and is a professor,so this is not a trait only under privileged women are supposed to possess .... and more than everything else what have our dads done all their lives ?,haven't they worked to make both ends meet.....?? they never cried...... may be because there were women who supported them with honesty ... who had a very mature upbringing may be because their mothers had the time to make them understand the definition of marriage and family.Sometimes I realize that no girl who is being so foolish with your family would want her brother's wife , to feel anything for her parents that she feels for yours....

Recently a psychiatrist friend of mine told me that there is this test that they give to "about to get married" couples where they are asked to draw a family......he said most of the guys draw father, mother, himself, wife and kids and most women draw herself, him and children ....may be that is the difference and that is may be because somewhere something is lacking in their upbringing....as...."Beta naye ghar mein adjust karna padega"( You will have to adjust in a new family )... has now become a line of tortured and supressed women ......how stupid... its logical... you enter a new institution you have to know their ways of functioning you don't expect a pre running unit to change overnight for you ....And now girl's family is always online to interfere in her married life to assure that it remains unsettled .... You can't plant your daughter in another house with a remote control in your hand .... it's her house let her handle .....SHUT shaadi.com and bharatmatrimony.com make a deadparents.com and see the response of girls there....Projection of so much hatred for in laws is so Shameful.And above all in such ads by some smart guys who know what would work projecting boys participating in this hatred for their own parents is so far fetched and stupid.....

 

Will ( वसीयत )

कहते हैं ऊपरवाला सबको किसी मक़सद से इस जहान में भेजता है ,
उसका मक़सद वो जाने , अपना मक़सद हर इंसान सहेजता है ,
उसको जब लगता है , आपका काम ख़त्म , वो बुला लेता है ,
आप जागने का मानस बना रहे होते हैं , वो सुला लेता है ,
अधूरी ख्वाहिशें दिखती है , मैं जिस तरफ नज़र घुमाता हूँ ,
पर उससे पहले की निमंत्रण आ जाए , मैं विल बनाना चाहता हूँ ।

राजेश की hard disk और सौरभ की CD वापस दे देना ,
फोटोग्राफर से पापा की enlarge करवाई फोटो ले लेना ,
पारसी आंटी की पिचान्वी सालगिरह पर जाना ,
और मुझे वे कितनी gorgeous लगती थीं , उन्हें बताना ,
समर से कहना मैंने उसकी पोलियो पे जीत से प्रेरणा ली थी ,
और दिव्या से कहना मैं शर्मिंदा हूँ कि मैंने उसकी कहानी translate नहीं की थी ,
घर पे दो storey उठाके , किरायेदार रखने थे ,
राज़ है की मुझे continental और thai भी चखने थे ,
ओह ! फिर विल से भटक गया .....

तुम तो मेरी poetry की किताब छपवा देना ,
और पापा की पुण्यतिथि पर दस घड़े प्याऊ पर रखवा देना ,
रूही पे स्कूल में मुझे crush था , उसे कह सकते हो ,
और विमला मौसी से कहना , अब आप मेरे घर में रह सकते हो ,
Body बनाना चाहता था , फिल्मों में जाना चाहता था ,
लन्दन में कुछ साल रहता मैं ,
मम्मी से फिर रेडियो पर गाने को कहता मैं ,
एक गोल घूमती कुर्सी और एक ऑफिस का सपना था ,
और हर उस शक्स को ढूँढता जो जीवन में कभी अपना था ,
किसी ट्री हाउस में बैठके साहित्य लिखता ,
और सदी की सबसे क़ामयाब फिल्मों में हीरो दिखता ,
माँ को दुनिया घुमानी थी ,
किसी बहुत अच्छी लड़की के साथ जिंदगी बितानी थी ,
एक छोटा सा अपना द्वीप खरीदना था ,
और ख़ुदका हेलिकॉप्टर terrace पे रखना था ,
अपने फार्म हाउस पर गौशाला खोलनी थी ,
मुझे शराब से कितनी नफ़रत है ,ये बात खुलके बोलनी थी ,
किसी दिन मेरे गाँव के घर में , खाली बैठा TV देखना चाहता था ,
और माँ के साथ हीटर पर , सर्दी में हाथ सेकना चाहता था ,
कुछ चुनिन्दा दोस्तों को detail में थैंक्स करना था ,
और कुछ मजबूर बेघरों के घर का लोन भी भरना था ,
मैं रोज़ बिल्डिंग में क्रिकेट खेलना चाहता था ,
और 700 – 800 रन पेलना चाहता था ,
कवि सम्मेलनों में जाना चाहता था ,
और मैं भी सबको कुछ सुनना चाहता था ,
वो जो मुझे चाहती है , उससे कहना था ,
कि मुझे भी उसके ज़हन में रहना था ,
जीवन की नदी के भँवर में फँसे रहे सदा ,
वरना मुझे तो बड़े सुकून से बहना था ,
इस सब में बाँटना कम और माँगना ज़्यादा दिख रहा है ,
आज सपनों के खाली पन्नों पर , एक मुफलिस अपनी विल लिख रहा है ।