Yesterday I wrote a small update on Facebook expressing mothers miss their sons who work in other cities or separate from parents after marriage......a reply which I got from a fake account which I deleted was .... "even women also miss their mothers".......What sick mindset is this I want to know sometimes , if I say a man misses his mother,the reply from some women is...."so do women".....when I wrote an article on.... men are being targeted in false cases ......I get an answer from a feminist ...."women have also gone through a lot"...is it justified a reply ? Every girl has to help a boy take care of his parents because she expects the same from her brother and sister in law towards her parents....everyone has a role to play in this system and tradition of marriages......... He is just saying this with respect to himself irrespective of you and not 'as compared to a woman' because he is a man and he has his own place and perspective.........specially when he is not saying "women do not feel pain or should be tortured " this is so silly ....there is this breed of ladies who have an angle of seeing everything a man expresses in light of what women are facing .I think men have their own world and they are never bothered about their problems as compared to women......Is defeating a man the only definition of proving oneself for a women..."Women can also do what men do" it is such a shallow statement....because women can do a lot more than what man can do......I still have to find out where is this competition they are so different entities and have their own place in this world....".....of course you can do what men can do although men don't see any pride in claiming it because they know they can, from cooking to raising children without mothers to kathak dance to tailoring anything you find demeaning,they have specialized in it......women have never been so without substance all these years that everything has just come down to "as compared to men" wearing ,talking , working ,enjoying , like a man and being a tomboy is to be proud of but insulting if a boy behaves like a girl.....and supposedly everything associated with her role , responsibilities and work in a family is demeaning and insulting now.Working at home,taking care of kids and family is the job of a maid ? When my father worked at home I never heard him say this is not my job,it is the job of a plumber,electrician,gardner,driver, coolie , carpenter or ATM machine......if this sounds silly ,it sounds equally stupid when a woman says she is not a maid..... and specially when the argument is -" taking care of your house is not important because you are not taking care of the house my parents stay in all the time ....." .....if there is a term mcp for men.....there has to be a term 1000 times more intense for this behaviour of women...I have written it several times ...what have our fathers done all their lives.....but till date a list of traumas and problems a man faces does not exist in this world....and I'm proud it doesn't which doesn't mean he has never faced anything in the process of protecting and sustaining his family ..... I till date have never heard a man saying if a woman is going through something.. ..."we have also gone through a lot"....so if a man is facing a problem ,it would be justified only if he sees the women concerned in the same problem ?? no he can't be a man......you talk about anything related to marriage,or a job or a law you just get one answer......... 'even women go through a lot'..... I am I .....a man and I am not a man in comparison to a woman then why some women are always struggling to define womanhood "as compared to men"....there is no competition and there has been no competition..... a family , children and society needs both and essentially their roles always have to be different,both don't have to go in every room together ......if a woman is able to visit her mother's place once a month doesn't mean it would be justified only if the man also visits his mother once a month....why do people get married now ?!.....live in is good,but since court has given all the right to a live in partner as they have given to married.....everything has to be equal except laws,job opportunities and considerations........a boy I met at the airport said....if you live in ,see to it you dump her as soon as the time is nearing 3 months else the law would be applicable...thanks to new mindset...new solutions....thanks to new laws......thanks to new definitions of womanhood and equality because if we are equal, yardstick in society , law and jobs must be equal....when you don't leave a seat in the office for a man , you are not supposed to ....but don't over react if he doesn't leave a seat for you in the bus....when you are not made to stand in job ques due to reservations don't create a scene if he doesn't let you break a cue at the ticket window ....Women are spreading so much hatred and I don't think they are getting anything else in return.
