Almost all my female co actors and friends are here on Facebook in my friends list ...... and today on a social platform I can very confidently (no more proudly) say that never ever till date in so many years of my career and life have I ever abused or cracked an indecent joke in front of any female co star or female friend..... it was a decorum that my mother taught me .... maa behen gaalis have a meaning that is like humiliating every woman your mothers and your sisters too... ( NOTE : If till here anybody is feeling I am trying to be a saint they can stop reading it now
), there is a protocol that men have to follow when ladies are around ,I believed....and this is the respect women tend to demand on the net all the time in all their shared posts..... now I see the same ladies laughing the loudest on maa behen gaalis and non veg jokes in any stand up comedy event, where performers openly use foul words and cheap jokes to a surprising change that female standup comedians in between their acts have also started using abusive words just to make people laugh ....besides the long list of women who fight for such events and claim that they did not find anything wrong with them to women who themselves abuse with their male friends which is very obviously to make interaction easy and feel comfortable in their company.... I feel begaani shaadi mein bekaar hi abdullah deewana ha ha .....I really feel so disappointed that I completely misunderstood the definition of respect and decorum for so many years, what I was taught doesn't hold true now ,I am just talking about myself here , just sharing the late realisation ....I have become so primitive in my approach it seems ...... just because one AIB on Youtube got away with it ....now there is a line of followers / jokers who feel they have found a way to succeed aping their over hyped role models by overdoing it, I feel together it will take them a lifetime to become a Kapil sharma or Raju shrivastav who can still make people roll on the floor laughing. with a decorum which suits a child or an 80 year old ...... they have range ..... and some prove they are good enough to be enclosed in a club of 'dying to be different' drunk self proclaimed liberals....When I see someone on stage using foul language in their act, I feel , it just shows how desperate they are to somehow manage to make something work either by shock or verbal violence ....desperate to be remembered ....I don't know but I am still very uncomfortable in such a place ....it hurts.... and yes an actor is saying that who has spent a major part of his life being in the most so called hep and cool and flamboyant and flashy and in and liberal profession and lifestyle .... I am not saying this out of ignorance ... I have seen more than many others.....staying away from my house for several years for work has at least made me wise enough to not feel that people enjoying it have any reason to stop it ....they have a different mindset , just that I really feel so lonely and silly surviving on beliefs that seem so pretentious today ..... it might be cool for everybody else but talking cheap can never be funny for me , ek indecent word in a public gathering by a performer aur mera mood off.... believe you me I am not proud of what I go through , in fact I find people so lucky who can abuse openly on any media without any inhibition of their parents and sisters and teachers and still are so unapologetic about it , may be they feel so liberated but ab jo bhi seekha hai badon se wo jaane mein mere jaise kuchh ajeeb logon ka ek janam nikal jata hai....main cool cool dude nahin ban paya shayad ..... log bahut aage nikal gaye hain , hum jaise shayad peechhe reh jaen par chalo jahan bhi pahunch jaen , itminaan kar lenge.
